use contact buttons more easier to use :
well its pretty simple you can find contact buttons at this website http://ego-box.com/contact-buttons/ or by simply going on Google and search contact buttons . choose the the contact button you want and under there is a code copy and paste it wherever you want on your page edit the code where it says YOUR FRIEND ID HERE and put your friend id or you can make your own
i suggest you hide your contact table if you are going to put message add, block if you don`t then whats the point of having that . Here is working code,just go to edit profile>about me section> & paste.
<style>.contacttable {display:none;}</style>
to make your own use this code :
here is the codes
now here is what you do this is the link to a new page thing: <a href="URL HERE">TEXT HERE</a> and when it says URL here you put the url, for example when you message yourself copy the code and put it there and where it says TEXT here you would put MESSAGE! but you put something else there if you want like add, message , block etc.